Was speaking to some colleagues today. One was dead against love marriages and had surrendered to his family to get married to a girl of their choice. On the other side of the spectrum was this friend, who was marrying the man of her dreams, but had very clear cues from her family that they might not be able to come to her rescue if something goes wrong with it, since it was a love marriage. I do not have much of an opinion about marriages or love. But should one deprive oneself of such beautiful feelings or should a cost benefit analysis be done before getting on this adventurous path?
On speaking to this fellow I understood that he must have been madly in love considering the kind of fun loving and adorable person he is. God Bless him & may he find what he wants. But then why these restrictions? People talk about all kinds or crap like short term and long term view but isn’t love and marriage more about your commitment, faith and trust in your partner, that no matter what comes they’ll always be there for you?
With the little bit of knowledge I have I am assuming that it’s going to be one in a million case if one finds their sweetheart in their own community. If people cannot cross that boundary called family’s happiness or society’s view (Samaj) or have the gut that they would be able to maintain that fine balance, then why do they fall in love? May be that feeling is so alluring, blessed, complete and fulfilling that in that one moment one is ready to forget their own existence and give into that moment. It’s tempting or sheer peer pressure.
Is it just the experiment that they like to try and see if they get favorable results and make it to the finishing line called Marriage or satisfaction? How many of them get to the finishing line with the blessings of their families?
At the end of this life all of us want to look back and see that we have spent a life well lived with someone who has made it much easier for us, than we ever thought it could be. Then why these doubts when you find that eternal part of yours which the supreme power separated from you in the beginning and tested if you could find that part of yours in this lifetime.
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